Choose one out of the following list of fears that most applies to you in your relationship. If you are not in a relationship, think about an ex-partner or spouse.
Your choice will reveal how you may have been wounded, as well as give you a clue on how to start healing.
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Separation, abandonment and losing myself in my relationship.
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Not being wanted emotionally and physically, and being rejected by my partner.
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My partner's unreliability — being there and then not being there for me.
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Being smothered, absorbed and humiliated by my partner.
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Feeling invisible, asserting myself, and consequently losing my partner's love.
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Being shamed for who I am, losing control and losing face in my relationship.
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Being seen as aggressive, successful, competent and powerful, and therefore losing my partner's love and acceptance.
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Being seen as a failure, losing my partner's approval and having to prove my worth to my partner.
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Having or expressing my needs and being excluded and rejected by my partner for having them.
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Being disliked by my partner, who doesn't want to be with me — not being seen as an equal.
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Being different from others and my partner, and not having my partner's approval of my uniqueness.
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Having my actions controlled by my partner, and not being free to express myself without being criticized.
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This exercise is not intended to be a substitute for professional counseling. For information on Imago Relationship Therapy or a therapist in your area, visit the Imago Web Site
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